New Year, New me.? Naaaahh Better yet New Year, New Conquests

Hey Loves

AHHHH we are only hours away from being another year down for the count. Surprisingly I have seen more "New Year, New Me' jokes and meme's then people actually saying it.

But we all know, who are we kidding, there is in our minds a "New Year, New Me" vibe. Whether it's thinking of one or multiple things you would like to do for the next year.

My accomplishments and my New Years Resolution I set for myself, I can actually say this year I accomplished some of those. Well I gained weight instead of losing it, and nope my house is still messy 90% of the time, I don't have but 5 new items to my wardrobe (but tossed a lot so does that cancel each other out.?)

I graduated college
I got a job for a hospital I love
We moved out on our own
We moved out of our small town (even though it was 45 min away, still it was a baby step)
Got new phones
Paid off our car
Got Disney Seasonal Passes
A new tattoo
Fake Eyelashes and Mastered the art of applying them
I've become more stern and success driven, rather then sitting at home sulking over why I wasn't successful
Somewhat comfortable with the Law of Attraction and how it works
Finally found out who I am as a person... likes, dislikes, what make me sad, happy, angry.
Learned to control my anger and emotions
Most importantly I have been brutally honest just so I didn't have to lie and hurt someone worse then telling the truth.
Weeded most of the ugly negatives out of my life
Started a blog

So many things i have accomplished from my 2015 New Years Resolutions list.

This Year I decided no "New Year, New Me" crap but "New Year, New Conquests". I am finally at peace with who I am and I love who I am at this point in my life. I'm always under construction with myself so there is always room for improvements, but lets face it (here is my brutal honesty)

I have to be successful because I like lavished expensive things and I like junk. I like jacked up trucks and sports cars, 4-wheeler's and a house on 10 acres, I love rescuing animals and giving them a loving home, I love having my nails and hair done, I need massages on a bi-weekly basis, I love to step out of my make up comfort zone, love to dress up and dress down, to spoil my children rotten and give them everything their little hearts desire, to take them to new places, get more tattoos and piercings, change my hair color a dozen times.

In order to do that I have to be successful, I have to be the best me that I can be. Pretty much make up my mind on what I want to do, or change it a million times. Most importantly just do what I want and make me happy. So here is to a New Year with New Successes and Conquests!

Everyone please be safe, party responsibly, don't drink and drive, don't let someone drink and drive. House Party throwers put the keys in a bowl, then hide them,and make up some cots and call up some cabs. Here is to another year let it be better then last year <3 Ladies may your next year be as sharp as your eyeliner, drama be as short as your mini skirts, and as high up as your stilettos ;)

When it all falls down: Recap Session 2

They lovelies,

I have finally slowed down after all the crazy hustle and bustle of the Holiday season.

Work has been swamped since more patients are coming in with heart and chest issues due to the stresses that come with the holidays. So while I have your attention....

Stress is killer! As hard as it is try to make you time in all the crazy holiday decorating and house full or family.

Here is a recap I wasn't able to do about the current situation in my marriage.

My husband and I were able to go in and see my (now our) therapist. We are now in a couples therapy together.

It helped because not only did it put into perspective that when my husband was unfaithful almost 5 years ago it wasn't because of me. It gave me a self relief because the entire time my main questions since it all happened was "What did I do wrong to make him do this?"

Answer was simple I didnt do anything. Everyone has their coping methods of dealing with stress and that just so happened to be my husbands rebellion to growing up and having his world changed from party boy/Hugh Heffner life to daddy and husband life. He was scared.

I can understand that but that fear is still there. In my head. Well fear is a strong word... More like the memory, is burned in the back of my mind.

Bright side was we were able to let a lot of things out that we were scaresd to get out to each other and get things explained to us better. Its easier to understand things and really was able to change the way I see some things and how I'm dealing with current situations. So it definitely helped to get us in there, for now.

We haven't been able to go back yet to see our therapist due to holiday season but she promised to help us, whether that we be together or split, and I'm sort of excited to see what she has in store for us as individuals and as a couple.

Session number 1 complete...

Hey lovelies,

So I just got back from my counciling session. My councilor is awesome.

From the get go I was comfortable with her. Just this one session helped me and my husband. We will be doing individual and couples counciling.

I told her everything I could from my childhood listening to my parents fight, to my adolescent age which was filled with depression, my self medicated ways of coping, how therapy helped me for a while but it was talking nothing that made a big impact, to me moving out, my drug phase, my party stage, my complications with my marriage and even what I know from my husbands background...

The conclusion was such, I was codependent, I have depression still, a new found anxiety, and I have a Chameleon personality disorder because deep down I do not know who I am. Me and my husband are suffering from PTSD from traumatic experiences in our childhood/ adolescents to just before our son was born.

We never dealt with those. My husband has anxiety and self medicates with alcohol which is never good. Me and my husband have never faced our issues just swept them and hide them and trained our minds to forget the horrors so we don't have to feel pain. Which only builds more issues and pain.

My husband has control issues and I am used to being a follower. Our wonderful therapist is going to help us cope with our PTSD, help me find who I am, who we are as a couple, and help me become independent and strong.

I'm so happy I found this place and look forward to our weekly sessions. I feel better just from this one session.

When it all falls down.... how do you build it back up.?

Hey lovelies,

So here is me getting sappy again. I came to a recent realization with my husband.... maybe we are at the end. After 6 years together, 1 of those being marriage, and 3 kids later. We just are not the same. Not that we started out great.

I know a lot of you especially my friends or those who follow my Fb your thinking several things...

I thought you guys were doing amazing.? Well doesn't surprise me look at your past? Well I have know your husband a long time and we all know he was never going to change? Well your past caught up with you Kiera.... or for those who see my vent in my awesome mommy group full of awesome ladies all with similarities to my own, and differences to my own. I respect these women because they different from me and they have so much I can learn from even when I don't always agree with what they have to say.... You need to run as fast as you can and leave him, it's better for you.

Unfortunately I have always been the type of person to shine out my issues and drama rather then shine out my positives.

Maybe it has a lot to do with my depression. Reason I say that is because Therapy helped me so much. Yes a part helped that I was on the generic Prozac too.When I left home at 18 yo I took myself off of 3 years of therapy and antidepressants and replaced it with partying and drinking.

My husband tends to be manipulative and recently been emotionally downing to me. I will not call it abusing because to me its a harsh word. Call me a softie (or worse) for sugar coating that word. But I personally think after therapy classes and psychology classes (I mainly too to help me understand depression and anxiety, since being diagnosed with it it sparked and interest in how the mind works with mental disorders)

People can be abusive and not realize it. Just like people are naturally flirty, or sometimes things can and will slip out of your mouth without you realizing it.

As much as I would love to say I know my husband, I don't. I have no clue what is going on in his head because even though I called a lot of the events before they happened I could have just been inviting that negativity through Law of Attraction.

But I have no clue what my husband has going on in his life stress wise, what he is feeling towards our relationship, what he see's for a future because honestly... and this will sound bad... I don't ask him. When we fight I tell him I don't want to hear about his work day, even though that may be why he is upset, or why he is stressed out. I vent a lot and realized I vent because I don't feel (please any of my friends and family who read this don't take this wrong I mean well I do I love ya'll but this is the truth) like I can trust them. I have had so many people not care, or they have things in their life I don't want to burden them with, or I want a positive response like I give other people, but some people are just plain old negative people, they can say "I'm just being honest" or "I'm a stern person"... I respect those people but I guess I'm just a softie like this, I feel that even if I don't agree and they have such negativity in their life I will not pollute their world anymore then they have already, I will just say wish you the best in life.... call it a day.

Me and my husband's marriage is falling apart. My husband was unfaithful to me in 2011, he knows it was wrong and beats himself up over it. Which is probably part of his problems he doesn't want to face that horrible part of our lives. My fear is stopping me from putting 100% trust into him. He has problems trusting me for me lying. We both got with other people and I lied about who I was with in our break up. But I felt that it was none of his business seeing he was in another relationship. Instead of being honest I did the wrong thing and lied for almost 2 years.

I've heard it all...

I don't see why your with him, You don't respect yourself, Your letting him abuse you, I know your scared but leaving is your best option, I believe in exhausting all your options before you leave, Good luck hope it works out, It's not going to work, Maybe you need to separate, Your setting a bad example for your children. You knew who he was before you married him and married him anyways.

I may get kicked out of my mommy group, and it's mostly my fault for venting, but I got negative comments even when I posted something happy.... SOME OF YOU GUYS ARE NEGATIVE PEOPLE!

If someone needs to vent and say they are having issues why tear them down more and cover up your bitchy attitude with "I'm a stern person" or "I'm just being direct and honest" No... You are being emotionally abusive and not realizing it.Your being a bitch and sugar coating it to your liking. Being honest, stern, direct, and being rude are different. If you cannot tell the difference then I'm sorry you do not need to open your mouth because your the type of person that makes people who feel bad feel worse and your just as bad as an emotional abuser. Your trying to make someone feel horrible or worse. If it's not your decision to make then when a person makes their decision either say good luck to you, or I'll be praying for you.

But once you realize they have nothing nice to say to anyone then you know its not just you they have unresolved issues themselves. I feel that if you make a group that's meant for other mother's to get help or have a safe haven, then the first thing is take the negativity people out of it. Even if that includes me since I vent a lot more then post the positive, but I am in general a negative person most of the time. Blame it on my depression Baby!

There is such a thing as being honest and not being rude. Sure call it sugar coating.

Me and my husband have came up with a plan but mostly it involves working on ourselves before working on us as a couple. We clearly have issues that hit deep down we need to resolve. Taking baby steps is still doing more then the people who troll you on FB waiting to spout a rude comment and tear you down more. What's they saying if you have nothing nice to say don't say it at all. I'm showing my kids we can co-exists and still be a family while working on ourselves.

There is nothing wrong with that. If it doesn't work it doesn't work, if it does then fantastic, I'm at the point in my life where my business is out there when I want it. Help is no longer help because people you vent to either don't care or love the rise they get from "telling you like it is" which is childish and petty.

This post is the kick off to how to build things back up when they have been torn down completely. It's hard to do that when you have no clue where to start. My first step is I had a long brutally honest and emotional conversation. I gave him every emotion I had and even when it hurt him I was honest (but polite about it). I set up an appointment for me to see a therapist. There is something in me I need to figure out, I am not even sure who I am anymore so how do I expect to fix my marriage. I went from living with my parents and having rules, to living in a house with my boyfriend and becoming a mom. I never ventured out single with no kids, lived by myself, and tried to figure out who I was before going from a child living under someones rules to being a parent and being a wife. Who am I?

This is day 1. I will be posting after my therapy session today on what my session opened my eyes to. Please do not think that it's stupid to talk to someone, or there is lost hope, or nothing they can do. They are professional and here to help you figure out what is going on and understand what you want and who you are when you can't focus. This is step 1 on this bumpy crazy journey. Continue to see how my plans unravel. Will it work.? Will it not work.? Let's see shall we...

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Latest Music Artist You Don't Want To Miss...

Hey Lovelies,

Lets take a moment here and think of all the music artists you love listening to.

You got them in mind? Great!

Now what is it about that artist that you love? Is it the genre of music? The beat's of their songs? Was it just love at first listen and it stuck with you? Or your like me and at first you really don't think you like it so you have to play it another 3 times and eventually you find that being the ONLY song you listen to for a month.

Do you love the lyrics? Do they say something that your feeling or have been through.? Maybe the artist is just extremely drop dead gorgeous with a voice that is even more gorgeous?

What ever it may be, I have one person that anyone could like. I'm saying this because even my husband likes a song or 2 of his. My 5yo and 3 year old hum his tunes and sing along with the songs on youtube. My (almost) 1 year old claps and screams YAY, during his songs.

Do I have your attention yet? Fantastic

Oh yea did I mention he is on the drop dead gorgeous with and even amazing voice category I mentioned earlier?

It's Mr. Kane Brown.

I follow about every social media account of his because I want to be updated on his new singles coming out, new music videos, anything new he has coming out.

Well he aint so bad to look at either in them selfies lol ;)

But his music is just so touching, emotional, and honestly not to sound like a crazy person but I usually have it on repeat in my office because it helps me think. Not really sure why maybe because it's fresh, its catchy, and honestly I have been through the same things he sings about. His lyrics really speak to me.

I would listen to it even if I never knew what he looked like. He has a deep calming voice that literally sent chills down my spine. A lot like Josh Turner and Brantley Gilbert's voice does when I hear their songs.

This artist you are not going to want to miss. I wish I could take the vacation time to go and see him perform in person but unfortunately money needs to be made so I can spend it at a show lol hello who doesn't love concert T-Shirts and especially the beer.?

No matter what words I put together, it just can't describe the amazingness (not that that is a real word but for him I'll use it he is just that freaking awesome!) that you have to experience it yourself.

You can catch him on IG (kanebrown_music), Facebook, or Twitter to

Last note if you haven't seen it already, you'll thank me for this..... The music video for "I Used To Love You Sober"

Don't forget to get you some Kane Brown music. Can be purchased through Amazon, Google Play Store, and Itunes.

Go and check him out you won't be disappointed ;)

My Energico has been tampered with... it now goes by the name Paranoia

Hey loves,

So I am going to get a little deep and a little personal.

I am one who believes in energies, gut feelings, and that sense of just knowing when something is wrong. It never let me down before up until 2011.

I love my husband dearly so please do not get the wrong idea from this post. Me and Chris haven't had the best relationship in the little over 6 years we have been together. We got together in the worst and most weird circumstances.

When I first started coming around him was when I was a Sophomore in high school. My boyfriend and Chris were best friends and that's the first time we ever met. It was no more then a simple 2 letter word...Hi. I would go around his house when he was incarcerated, up until me and my boyfriend at the time split. Yes.... my husband is a bad boy type. Which I was very much attracted too but at the time I didn't even remember his name.

2 years later I met him again. This time we spoke more then a 2 letter word. I thought he was cute but he had to be the cheesiest, most dorky, and scrawny guy I have ever met. His first sentence was "Who are these pretty ladies in my living room". Originally me, a friend of mine, and her cousin wanted to go see someone we knew very well which so happened to be Chris brother, and my ex was there. Later I got a text from Chris. Of course like I said I didn't even remember who he was lol I went up to talk to him and according to my husband we kissed but I don't really remember it.... Sorry hunny.

I ended up turning Chris away and it was more of an attempt to rekindle an old flame. That flame blew up in my face when my ex revealed his new flame to me. So as a revenge I figured to spark it up with his best friend. Yes I know I was 18 and at the time it seems I was not in my right mind... now it makes perfect sense. From the time we hooked up my feelings were instantly wrapped around Chris. My world was turned upside down and for some reason.... I had to have him. He was a drug and I was hooked.

In the years to come Chris has cheated, lied, left, drug me to hell and back, completely tore down everything I was as a person and here I am.... completely remade (not in a bad way I'm not a push over anymore and what others say about me has no affect, I am calmer, and more head strong. Most importantly I am strong and independent) I was left a single mother, pregnant even though I had the IUD birth control in, ended up dealing with a miscarriage on my own, at 19 years old. No job, No car, only education I had was my high school diploma. No matter what he did, I still let him back every time just for him to leave.

The final time he came back he stayed. We are here now 3 years later. for the longest time I would keep him at arms length. I let him back in my home but not completely in my heart. Just my guts and bones told me he needed to be there with me. I had to give him another chance.

We have come such a long way and are still going. We have 3 children, are married, and for the most part we are doing great. Everything is looking up but I have my moments where I swear he will be up to his old tricks with some little trick even though I have no proof he was. It will end up taking something so simple and making into why I think he is being unfaithful again when all it was work related. It eats me up so bad because I swear its my gut feeling and its telling me something but it's nothing but a serious case of Paranoia.

And it's killer! I have ruined surprises because I just don't react well to surprises anymore.

I love my husband. For the last 3 years he has been faithful, loving, caring, great father, romantic. We still have our bickers and stupid arguments. I'm for the most part happy and love who I share my home with. He is my other half no matter what he has done. I have never been 100% an angel myself.

Severe Paranoia can feel like a gut feeling. Through all this I noticed a difference while laying in bed one night....

Paranoia eats you alive. It can and will turn you into a raving lunatic. It will consume you and nag at you in the worse way possible. It's a maybe.

Gut feeling will be precise, it's a "I know" not a maybe. It wont make you scared or guess anything because you just simply know. You don't need proof. Not all gut feelings are good of course.

But I am also a firm believer in The Law of Attraction.... what you think and dwell on with manifest. You keep thinking that same thing over and over and concentrating your energy on it, the Universe will give you what your asking for.

Keep positive my lovelies. I am still working on it a little myself. It's won't happen overnight but you got to start somewhere, why not start right now. Get rid of the unhealthy thoughts and negative energies. Your life is what you make it. Try not to exhaust yourself and drive yourself nuts. Sometimes your gut feeling is nothing but paranoia. You have to take a step back and clearly think about it. <3

Stay beautiful and positive :)

It's Thanksgiving!!

Hey Lovelies!

The awesome day of cooking all day, family and friends gathered around the table, some traveling or already out of town, Whatever it is your doing, don't forget to stop and be thankful for everything in your life.

I have so much to be thankful for. Starting with my awesome kids who never stop to give me a break, I cannot ever seem to go to the bathroom or take a shower by myself, but they make my day with the small things they do from hugs and kisses, to the laughs that make me laugh. My house would be clean, empty, and quiet without them. Especially my furbaby Pandora she has been such a blessing to us and so helpful!

I am thankful for my husband. He isn't a 100% perfect but if he was life would be pretty boring. We don't get along all the time but all the great times seem to make the few bad times disappear. He tries his hardest to do right by me and that makes him pretty damn close to perfect to me! :)

My family and in-laws. They help out so much when we need it and we would be lost without them. With 3 kids and 2 working even the smallest things help so much and we would be in total destruction without them.

Today I do not have to cook. Which I am also thankful for who doesn't like the holidays where the other family members do all the cooking and there are no dishes to really do.

I do on the other hand have so many stuff I am cooking. With a little help from Law of Attraction and my dream board this time next year I will be doing the cooking and hosting of the holidays in our new home. This year it was kind of hard to do that with the whole family in a 2 bedroom apartment.

Everyone enjoy your Thanksgiving, enjoy the food, the time together, safe travels to the ones who will be traveling back home! Definitely stop to remember everything you are Thankful for :)

HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO ALL!

(Images thanks to Google) 

My new favorite beauty item that my kids enjoy too!

Hey lovelies,

So I have the worst acne issue ever and dry skin in patches on my face when winter hits. It's embarrassing for me because the acne is small but there are tons in one spot and its always under my eyes and on my cheeks, chin and neck. I also have the worst problem with acne on my chest and back. My really bad dry skin is a patch on the corner of my nose and also one in the outer corner of my left eye.

My kids also have really bad dry skin on their shoulders and legs.

I have been searching and searching for an antibacterial soap for all of us that would be great for the acne and dry skin. I know dial had some body wash but for some reason every store I went into no longer has the antibacterial dial body wash.

I trailed down the beauty aisle thinking something had to be here to help. I usually don't buy things down the skin care aisle because I love Aveda products they are the best thing in the world. I also have done my research and found that more people have issues from a lot of drugstore skin care brands because even some name brand items are made to break out your skin the longer you use them, so you buy their products more often.

I came across Cetaphil brand portion of the skin care and found the antibacterial soap bars and figured why not. It was $9 for a pack of 3. From the first time I used it I instantly felt an amazing difference. My skin felt clean, soft, and taken care of. Like the soap was meant for my skin.

My acne was instantly less inflamed and red. Bonus is it took my make up off amazingly with no traces of anything. The soap is extremely creamy and moisturizing. i used it on my kids and they cannot get enough of it. They will grab it and hand it to me first thing when they get into the tub.

The dry patches are not all the way gone but it has definitely improved it as well as calmed the redness from the patches as well. It smells AMAZING, like I said my new favorite beauty product my acne from head to toe has went from embarrassing to maybe one or 2 here and there.

I highly recommend this heavenly product and I myself will be buying more from this brand.

The only down fall to this is that for naturally dry skin types it is not extremely moisturizing you do need to put a moisturizer meant for dry skin on after it but it does help it a lot in putting some moisture back in it.

I'M BACCCCCCCK!!!!!!

Hello Lovelies!

I know it has been quite some time that I haven't posted anything. I have been taking blogging boot camps and seminars to make sure I make this the best it can be. I love that I started this blog but I know that it wasn't all it needed to be.

On top of that I have exciting news... I have also taken some time away because all the schooling I told you guys about in my post College and Babies, paid off. I am ecstatic to say I am a full time working mom. I got a job at my local Cardiology Specialist Office here that is affiliated with one of our local hospitals.

To say the least it has been extremely hard juggling a work life, bettering my blog life, fixing a marriage that was, to say the least, in a rough patch and falling apart, a mom life, and keeping our home tidy and in one piece.

Working has been amazing I get out of the house, I have an office to myself, even though it's work I get quiet time away from the screaming of kids, because I work at a medical office I get free lunches so it saves us some money. The main thing I love is the benefits. My son is doing much better with his speech thanks to a wonderful daycare and daycare owner is the best!

My marriage has been better because I am not stuck in the house with my only conversations being with a 5 year old and her imagination HAHA. I am also bringing in more money and we are not aggravated from struggling and living paycheck to paycheck with only enough money to make it by we have that little extra bit for fun things and able to start crossing off our need's and wants lists.

But, with all these fabulous things there are downfalls... BUM BUM BUUUUUUM. Sorry dramatic effect.

I have only had 1 half paycheck and 1 full paycheck from my job, so of course our bills are backed up and slowly being caught up. As great as daycare is and helping my kids SOOO much it does cost a lot to have 2 children in daycare and this is the most affordable, wonderful, clean in-home daycare I have seen and my kids LOVE the owners and her family because her family helps her out with the daycare.

The daycare (mind you I said most affordable) costs us $1,000 a month. Which is a great price especially considering it is clean, safe, and amazing people work there who truly love and care about the children when there was a place that was an academy was $875 per child, with over $500 extra in costs. My son being ADHD and extremely hyper he did not have the behavior skills to go there.

It has been a struggle being away from my babies, it's been a struggle to pay bills for right now because all jobs cost you in the beginning but pay off as time goes on, I love my job, I won amazing Younique pigments from one of those online parties so definitely do that if you have the chance, I have so much more for you guys thank you for those who have been patient with me :D

Oh yeah and I dyed my hair black! Why.? The red was so gorgeous!! Yes, unfortunately my job doesn't approve of those bright colors on hair so I had to change it. Career Career Career and helping my family was a sacrifice I was willing to make :)

            (from Ink361- Bossbabe Inc.)

ADHD and our natural approach plan for our son

Today our son had a child wellness check up with updated vaccines so we could get him geared up for starting preschool.

It's always been discussed at his doctor appointments is his possibility of having ADHD. At his doctor's appointments I made it clear about EVERYTHING that I was experiencing with him that made me feel uneasy. I did make sure to write behaviors and reactions as I experienced them with Kayden since his 2nd birthday (he is now almost 3 come January)

They included:

• 2 hour tantrums.
• Tantrums that involved violence of either himself, objects around him, or others. This involved banging his head on the floor and walls, throwing himself on the floor so hard he would bruise himself up, slapping himself, slapping others, kicking others and other objects, throwing large heavy items, locking up of his body and limbs, and biting. 
• He could not and would not look anyone in the eyes.
• He had what we liked to call his "anchor" item. Normally it was a screwdriver, ball, or blanket that he constantly would hold on to. If anyone was to take or touch it he would throw a tantrum. 
• He doesn't like to be touched very much or held, and cannot sit longer then 10-15 minutes at a time.
• He has extreme OCD with things more so size or items. What ever it is he has to line them up from small to larger and group them according to colors. 
• His vocabulary was sounds instead of words.
• He is so quick and easy to be distracted and runs in 100 different ways.
• Has to touch and climb on everything he comes in contact with even if it's a window or someone else's car.
• Screaming, squealing, and making noises uncontrollably.

I think the best thing about him and his tantrums is he does take in account when his baby sister is around and if he comes anywhere near her while he is throwing a tantrum he will get up and go to the opposite side from where she is at. Like I said he is a sweet boy, his older sister though is a different story. Mostly we have to move her to a separate room to avoid her getting caught up in his tantrums.

Here recently from the notes I took on him since his last visit (maybe around 6 or more months ago) the only thing that has changed is he will look you in the eyes pretty well and his vocabulary went from sounds to maybe 25 words at the most but the doctor saw more of him mimicking words then actually putting words together and talking to you. 

His doctor told us that now was the time to get him into see a child behavioral specialist to start being evaluated to get down to figuring out what needs to be done and course our plan of action to begin to better teach him on his level. 

His doctor told us he shows sure signs of ADHD but of course he can't be diagnoses without proper testing. 

We were told so far that he may have to be put on medication which in my perspective I am not ok with at such a young age, so our alternatives will fully be discussed at his evaluations, which I will be doing a post on to help those be more prepared about what the the testing includes exactly. For now and for a while we are going the more natural route to dealing with this, if he has it.  

So far it's cutting out as much sugars as we possible can, putting him on a strict diet, he will be having a doctor appointment every 4-6 months, and start seeing a child behavioral specialist frequently. 

Hearing about how food can actually affect behavior was mind blowing. I went on Pinterest and found these awesome sites to help guide me through.

• ADDitude Mag
• Asparrowsworth
• Active Beat

Wish us luck, send good vibes. He starts preschool on the 26th and this will help him further. 

Fun Family Costume Ideas!

Hey loves,

With Halloween coming up, I know I am a huge procrastinator when it comes to getting costumes especially because we never really know what we are going as. My 5yo changes her mind on an hourly basis, and with our younger 2 they arn't old enough to really tell us.

This year we wanted to do a whole family theme. Since we are very much into DC Comics, especially with Gotham the TV Show which is my husbands absolutely #1 favorite TV Show, we are going with that theme.

For our kids Sophia is going to be Bat Girl, Kayden is going to be Batman, and Lyrix is going to be Wonder Woman.

Me and my husband are obsessed with The Joker and Harley Quinn. SOOO.... can you have any question as to what we are being for Halloween.? :D

For the mommies that are like me and have been so hectic and have yet to figure out Halloween costumes here are some great ideas and maybe even future Halloween costumes.

(From the Huffington Post)

Fred, Velma, and Pebbles

 Root Beer Float (which is adorable)

 Pirates and a Parrot 

 Snoopy and Charlie Brown

 How To Train Your Dragon

 The Incredible's 

(From Pinterest)

 Rapunzel, Flynn Rider, and Pascal

 Peter Pan Family 

 The Adams Family 

 The Wizard of Oz

 Exploring Adventurers 

Other Fantastic sites for Costumes

Popsugar

The Dating Divas

Costume Works

Don't forget to tag me in your pictures on Instagram @mrslildirty25 or tweet it to me @KieraGestl. I would love to see your creative ideas :D 

To the man who's mad at the world...

Dear Man who is mad at the world,


           It's ok to have a bad day. It's ok to get mad. It's ok to blow off some steam. It, however, is not ok to come home from your bad day, in a bad mood, mad and take it out on your home and the people in it.

Anger is such a wasteful feeling. It tends to have you lash out at those who least deserve it. Your wife who is trying so hard to make you feel better, do what she can through your glares and your radiating hostile energy. Though you love her and would do anything for her, you have little to no control over where your anger tends to lash out. When your upset remember your wife is upset with you. When your stressed, that stressful energy not only pools out to her but the children as well.

My dear Sir, you are not the only one who has bad days, feels hurt, or gets angry. Being angry does not mean that you are pardoned from any hurtful words that seem to spill from your lips. Your wife doesn't deserve the disrespect, your children doesn't deserve to see your hostile lashes reach your ever trying wife's path.

There are so many ways to control that anger. Maybe stay out a little while longer to release the stress, go for a run, hit the gym, maybe even write it down in a hateful letter and burn it to burn all the hate you released and well, burn the evidence. You do not want that getting into the wrong hands!

Remember, Mr. Grumpy Pants... the next time your angry, before you come in contact with anyone, release the anger. Even if you don't realize it your anger can cut her with the harshest words that you yourself would have never imagined to say to her. It will push her closer to the door, closer to a life on her own. She loves you and when the world seems to be against you, she is one who will always be in your corner.

It's you and her against the world, not Her and you against each other.  Love her unconditionally when your angry, tell her your problems instead of making her feel like she is the problem, hug her even though you don't want to be touched, kiss her to keep you from saying harsh words. It will make a difference and turn your day if not life around, I assure you. Give your children the example of what a Great Man is. <3

Sincerely,

Woman on the outside looking in.

Jewelry In Candles review

Hey loves,

I previously have bought some candles from a good friend of mine and my husband. I bought 2 candles a couple months ago and recently received some tarts so I could do this review from the awesome Jennifer Damron. Tarts are the wick-less candle squares. I have always wanted to get some and since I love Jewelry In Candles, I couldn't wait to receive these.

A little about Jewelry In Candles
Their mission is to make candles that are alternatives to Paraffin Wax candles. Candles that last longer with a great smell and eco-friendly. The candles are made with 100% soy wax that have premium fragrances that create and amazing sensational safe haven in your home.

Each candle or tart has a piece of jewelry which you get to choose from. It is safely wrapped and protected in a tiny plastic baggy which is then covered by pink tin foil. This keeps your jewelry safe and clean, ready to wear as soon as you want.

Soy vs. Paraffin 

SOY:

1. Biodegradable, non-toxic, and harmless to environment. Perfect for everyone, especially those with Children and Pets who have more worry with health concerns due to them. 
2.  Less likely to give an allergic reaction. 
3. Wax is safe to have contact with skin 
4. Wax is safe to be touched while burning 
5. Easy to clean if an accident was to occur and make a mess, it can be cleaned up with soap and water.
6. You'll save money. Soy bean wax burns 50% longer due to burning at a lower temperature.
7. Made from soy beans and vegetables. 
8. Burns cleaner and purer
9. Biodegradable which leads to reduced landfills 

PARAFFIN: 

1. Contain petroleum by product, have shown to be toxic and carcinogenic. 
2. Proven to be as dangerous when burned, as second hand tobacco smoke
3. May lead to increased risk of cancer, neurological and behavioral deficits, and acute aggravation of existing respiratory diseases. 
4. Emissions in the home are estimated to stick around for up to 10 hours.
5. Some may even still use lead wicks 
6. Non-renewable resource 
7. Burns quickly and hotter which can easily be a fire hazard
8. Oil based meaning once there is a spill or mess it can easily be made worse with clean up. 
9. Derived from petroleum which is a limited resource 
10. Soot deposits carcinogenic particle matter  
11. Not biodegradable 

As you can see there are many health and environmental issues that come from paraffin wax candles. These are not saying that paraffin wax absolutely without a doubt leads to the horrible things, but it does increase risks of issues such as these. 

The Jewelry inside the candles

The jewelry in the candles is what makes the candles and tarts so special, of course other than the safer eco-friendly ingredients it is made from. There are even men rings in some scents. Some candles and tarts are scented to be pleasing and appealing to both men and women. 

The jewelry ranges in value from $10-$1000 or more.

Like I told you guys I have had the candles already and this was my first time with the tarts. I love them all! Especially the scents. These candles really live up to what they say they do and that is one of the best qualities I look for when it comes to buying anything! Does this product really do what it says.? YES without a doubt!

 this is the best pic I have of the necklace I received from the Clean Cotton candle which I wore all the time until I had a 5yo jewelry bandit raid my Jewelry box (taken a couple months ago)

 this was from the Caribbean Teakwood

At least try it once because once is all it takes to fall in love with these candles and tarts. No you don't have to give up on your Yankee Candles or Air Wick candles but I promise these will be just as good if not better.

The scents are enchanting, so far I have had Love Potion, Clean Cotton, and now we have had the Caribbean Teakwood. My favorite so far has been the Caribbean Teakwood. My husband and oldest child are obsessed with the Love Potion, my husband will burn both at the same time and the best thing is the scents mix beautifully! I am obsessed with these candles and tarts. I love them. I keep hinting to my hubby we need more of course we can never decide on a scent but the goal is to definitely try them all and stock up on our favorites. We were buying 2 a month until the hubby slacked on it lol he tends to forget sometimes but that is why I am here right.?

 I received a gorgeous pair of heart dangle earrings from the Love Potion candle. This is my hubby and 5yo's favorite so far.

Don't forget to check them out Jewelry In Candles sold by the amazing Jennifer Damron. Don't forget to go and like her JIC Facebook Page to get all the updates on seasonal scents and stay connected. She is such an amazing person and she will definitely make your experience with Jewelry In Candles a fantastic one. So definitely go and check her websites out, browse, and when you receive your JIC snap pics and tag me through Instagram (mrslildirty25) or Twitter (@KieraGestl) I would love to see and hear your experiences with it and see what you guys got in your candles or tarts. I always wanted to say a HUGE thank you to Jennifer for being an amazing person and letting me review these on my blog! Your the best! :)